We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National...
- competition on worries! - Competition on worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
We have entertainer Kwak Jung Eun.
(Entertainer, Kwak Jung Eun)
Welcome.
A man in love, Kang Nam.
(Singer, Kang Nam)
Hello.
Bo Na and Seol A of WJSN.
And the Prince of Congo who loves Korea.
Jonathan.
(Entertainer, Jonathan)
Jonathan!
(Welcome)
He's the talk of the town when it comes to dating these days.
Their relationship is in the spotlight.
How did you capture Lee Sang Hwa's heart?
Have you ice skated together?
Yes.
She was too fast.
They can't enjoy it.
Of course! Of course!
- She was so fast. - "Catch me if you can!"
She probably dashed forward.
I read an article recently,
and it said Jung Eun wasn't going to date anymore.
She refused to date.
But that wasn't the Kwak Jung Eun I knew.
Can you explain that?
Even though I may give good advice to others about dating,
being in a relationship myself, it was so difficult.
Right.
That's why I said that.
Are you not dating right now?
But you don't know what the future holds.
You're dating right now, aren't you?
I don't...
I do have someone.
Are you seeing someone?
- Are you? - We're just getting...
to know each other.
Come on. Why are you hesitant to talk about your love life?
- They're all like that. - Please protect my privacy.
Is there anything you want to ask her?
Is there anything you don't understand?
I'm so happy these days. There isn't anything.
Still.
- Still. - Anything you're curious about?
- Just one. - About women?
What should I do when I feel very happy?
(My goodness)
Just date.
Jonathan, are you a fan...
- of our show? - Yes, I am.
This is a talk show involving the people of this country.
- Right. - He's so fluent.
I love this show.
I'm a big fan of Dong Yeob's.
His ad-libs are...
"Ad-libs"?
It's...
One time, a short man was on this show.
And he said, "Being short doesn't mean everything else is short!"
That was so hilarious.
That's when I became a fan.
- It's... - So that's what you like.
What I meant by that was that...
- his other features weren't small. - Right.
- His hands were big. - Right.
- Right. - That's why I said that.
Yes, that's what I meant.
How old are you?
Recently, I celebrated the Coming-of-Age Day.
- Really? - So you're 20?
- Yes. - You're 20?
- Yes. - He's so young.
Are you in high school?
Yes, I'm 20 years old, but I'm still in high school.
He's that young,
but he liked my humor since he was even younger than that?
- Goodness. - How old are you ladies?
- I'm 25, she's 26. - I'm 26.
- I see. - Jonathan.
You should mind your manners.
Okay.
(He's embarrassed.)
- He's so adorable. - WJSN has released their new song.
- Yes. - Let's hear it.
(Anticipating)
("Boogie Up" by WJSN)
(They look fresh and cheery.)
(This is exciting.)
What are you doing?
(Their performance...)
(will cast this heat away.)
That was great!
"Boogie Up".
Once again, we have prepared three worries.
Show us the keywords, please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
- "Infuriating Worry". - "Infuriating Worry".
"That Darn, Old Geezer".
"Our House Inspector".
(Infuriating Worry, That Darn, Old Geezer, Our House Inspector)
This one is "That Darn, Old Geezer".
I need someone to play the husband.
(She looks for her husband.)
(The men look elsewhere.)
You!
(Me?)
Hello.
I'm a 50-year-old woman...
who's running a restaurant... with her husband.
While I'm busy preparing the foods,
my 57-year-old husband is...
(Making sounds)
(She tries not to laugh.)
It's the sound of a guitar.
(That was the sound of a guitar.)
It's like "The Ant and the Grasshopper".
My husband has been in love with music and playing the guitar.
Since last year...
(Exclaiming)
"I've been inspired."
"Honey, you should focus on working."
(Making sounds)
He's been completely into writing music.
In a small room at our restaurant,
he's set up his guitar, piano, speakers, computers,
and many more.
It's a music studio.
After doing that, he's been staying there...
from early morning until late at night.
Because of him, I have to work at the restaurant all by myself.
"Honey, we have too many customers. Help me."
"Okay."
(Making sounds)
- Goodness. - He's playing the guitar.
- It sounds like music. - It sounds nice.
It sounds really nice.
I'm so frustrated at my husband...
who's having the time of his life.
I can't live like this any longer. Please help me.
(Please help my husband wake up.)
Jonathan, what did you think about this worry?
I didn't know there was another meaning to the keyword.
- The keyword? - Yes.
- "Inspiration"? - Yes.
- Yes, it also means "inspiration". - Yes.
You're quick.
- I'm pretty sharp. - Goodness.
(He's proud of himself.)
- Kang Nam, did you not know? - No.
I thought she wanted to kill her husband.
The woman's leg hurts a bit.
So she won't be able to go down the slide.
- She'll walk out. - Come on out!
(Who is this woman whose husband's fallen in love with writing music?)
(Yoon Bok Soon)
Goodness, is it your right or left?
- Right leg. - Right?
- Straighten them. - It hurts a bit.
- Straighten them. - Straighten them.
- Thank you. - Be comfortable.
So your husband has fallen in love with writing music?
Yes. When I first met my husband, he looked handsome because...
he played the guitar and enjoyed music.
- Right. - Right.
Playing the guitar well is attractive.
But after getting married to him, I was wrong.
It's so noisy.
Is she working on his music at the restaurant...
- in his music studio? - Yes.
What do the customers say?
He's in his own room.
He's decorated it into a studio.
(He renovated a room.)
We've prepared a photo.
- Let's see. - It's spacious.
He has three guitars.
He also has bags of flour.
- I know. - Right.
That's a storage room.
Yes, it is.
(Oh, my)
- He's completely in love. - He arranges songs as well.
There's a microphone for when he records songs.
The problem is,
once he goes in there, he doesn't come out.
- What about your business? - He doesn't help out.
No matter how busy it gets, he never comes out.
You do run the restaurant with your husband, right?
- I think so. - We now have...
three restaurants.
You are a businesswoman.
We suffered during the IMF crisis...
and later opened up a small snack stand.
Since there were many small tasks to do,
I faced many conflicts while working with my husband.
- You probably clashed. - Right.
So we opened up a small octopus restaurant.
It became a hit.
- It became a hit? - Yes.
- What about the other one? - My elder son is running...
a Chinese restaurant in Seoul.
- What about your husband? - Your eldest son?
- Yes, so I visit Seoul as well. - I see.
Does that mean you're managing all three restaurants?
Yes, I am.
I'm managing all of them.
Before you came in,
we heard that you hurt your leg.
At the beginning of 2018,
I hurt myself at the sauna.
- What? How? - Oh, my.
I was taken to the emergency center...
and was diagnosed with cerebral infarction.
I was hospitalized for six months.
- That's a long time. - Yes.
I could barely walk at first.
- What happened? - I'm about to cry.
Your leg seems to still be bugging you.
- Yes, it does. - Right.
But in this state, you're still managing...
- all three restaurants? - Yes.
Yes, I move around.
Right now,
someone should take care of you, not the other way around.
Let's meet her husband.
Where are you?
- Hello. - Hello.
(He's put aside work to make music.)
- You look so young for 57. - I know.
- Did you know about this? - It's because he's worry-free.
I did know.
Our employees also think I shouldn't be the owner.
It's that bad? It's almost like a demonstration.
That's how much I don't work.
Wait.
How could you acknowledge that...
- so quickly? - Isn't this a first?
Did you just acknowledge that?
Yes, yes. I do admit that I don't work.
- But... - Don't you feel sorry for her?
I don't want to work.
Yes.
My gosh, he's so laidback.
- It's refreshing yet frustrating. - Sometimes,
when it's really busy,
shouldn't you help out?
I do know that she's busy.
Definitely.
My goodness.
- I do know that. - But you don't want to work.
But I know she'll be able to do everything.
- That's why I don't help out. - Then what do you do...
in your studio?
If there's a music that I like.
I'd hate to stop listening to it.
- My goodness. - After listening to it for a while,
12 hours can pass.
You keep listening for 12 hours?
- Yes, it happens often. - My goodness.
Are you sure this is not an excuse for you to spend...
your own personal time?
I think you're right.
- My gosh! - Come on now!
He's acknowledging everything!
- That's why... - I'm serious.
After listening to what she said,
it made me think that I've been a very bad husband.
- What matters is that he changes. - Right.
We've encountered a difficult situation,
and I've finally managed to fix the problem.
When did this happen?
We were looking for employees, but he wrote,
"Someone who's willing to make music while working".
He wrote that.
"Someone who's willing to make music while working"?
A restaurant shouldn't become a music studio.
One day, I showed up for work...
and saw these huge speakers,
an electronic piano, and several guitars.
- All of a sudden? - It wasn't...
- a restaurant anymore. - Does he perform live?
My gosh.
- That was his dream. - And then, what happened?
It didn't work.
- We couldn't run it properly. - You couldn't?
Our sales plummeted.
I've tried out many different businesses.
I do admit that I was impulsive at times.
But all the ideas I came up with were successful.
- That's not true. - But when...
- She doesn't agree. - she's researched for months...
about a certain business...
and we tried them out, they'd all fall through.
That's not true. That's a different story.
He said the ideas you came up with all fell through.
Those were my husband's ideas.
Then why is he saying this?
I'm not sure. He's always saying that he did well.
(Sniggering)
(Is it my fault once again?)
How did you get into writing music?
One day, it was raining cats and dogs.
When the raindrops got bigger,
they strangely started looking like faces.
Was it your wife's face?
I don't think so.
(Flustered)
Why would you ask that?
It wasn't a specific face.
I wondered if this was how painters were inspired...
and started writing music.
I was surprised by the stuff I came up with.
That's when I started asking myself,
whether I truly had talent in this.
Was this your first song?
- Yes. - How do you work on your music?
At times, I suddenly get inspired.
I write them down on my notebook.
- I learned MIDI. - Right.
I layered the music with the bass and other features.
While everyone else is working?
Right.
- No one's stopping you. - No one can stop me.
(It's your restaurant. Have more responsibility.)
We've brought a notebook that shows...
- how he makes music. - A notebook?
That's it.
"The Dancing Woman".
- I like the title. - "The Dancing Woman".
(It's a sentimental title with lonely lyrics.)
She's a member of our acoustic guitar club.
I've brought her here with me.
- Really? - She'll sing for us.
Let's hear it.
("The Dancing Woman", written by the husband)
I like the rhythm.
(The woman dances)
(As if she's taken by the wind)
(The woman dances)
(As if she's taken by the clouds)
(She is filled)
(With yearning)
(And loneliness)
(It's excellent.)
(He's proud.)
I really liked the music, but I couldn't enjoy it...
- because of her expression. - I know. She didn't look so happy.
I've listened to this song countless of times.
- Really? - I see.
This is exciting. Let me see one more.
- He has talent. - I can't read the title.
It's something "love song".
It's "Analog Love Song".
- I was inspired by a shaman. - I see.
- That's the melody. - Really?
(Words that purify the sins Committed by the mouth)
(Surisuri susuri sabaha)
Words that comfort All spirits in all directions
(It's hypnotizing.)
(Om dorodoro jimi sabaha)
Heung Bo is dumb-founded
Sabaha
(Heung Bo is dumb-founded)
Why did you do that? Why?
That was perfect.
He looks hurt.
(What's the big deal?)
We heard two songs, and you sure have a talent.
By combining the songs he's heard,
he produced a completely new song.
I really think you're talented.
- It's very catchy. - Yes.
I worked hard.
- Of course. - Many people tell me...
my songs are very unique.
We'd love to hear him sing...
- I... - more properly.
- More properly. - With recorded accompaniment.
("Butterfly", written and composed by the husband)
I open the window at dawn
(The soft sound of acoustic guitar fills the studio.)
(I pour myself a glass)
(Waiting for her)
(What's that face?)
Thank you.
(Thank you.)
Is the person next to him angry?
(It feels awkward.)
- He looks a bit scary. - Right.
He never smiles.
- Is he your son? - Yes.
- Is he your son? - He's their first son.
- He runs a Chinese restaurant... - Yes.
in Seoul, right? Why...
- do you never look at your dad? - Right.
- They're not very close. - His music is not my style.
(His music is not my style.)
(Hurt)
You just heard your dad sing.
What do you think about his love for songwriting?
I respect it as his hobby,
but we run three shops.
I want him to focus more on our business.
Do you think your mom is suffering?
Yes, a bit.
Still, you don't talk to your dad a lot?
My dad and I are awkward around each other.
As our family runs businesses,
we don't meet very often.
I haven't seen my dad in a long time.
Say hi.
(Laughing)
- They look awkward. - Say hi.
Say hi. Your son is here.
- They don't look at each other. - Look at your son.
Say hi.
Hello, Father.
(Hello, Father.)
(He's not reading from a script.)
- "Hello, Father." - Give him a hug.
Ask him how he's doing.
It's been a long time. How are you doing?
- It's so awkward. - Tell him how you're doing.
- Oh, my. - He asked you.
He asked you a question.
How have you been?
- He asked the same question. - Oh, my.
Oh, no.
The mother has to go back and forth...
between their restaurants and take care of both.
- Right. - Shouldn't you...
take some of her burdens off...
by telling her she can stop coming?
I have a few experienced employees.
I'm younger than a lot of my employees.
As my mom has a lot of experience when it comes to business,
I ask her to help a lot.
Do you just give him advice?
- When something is not done, - Do you do physical work too?
- I take care of it. - My goodness.
Even though you can't use the right side of your body well?
Yes.
An employee at their small octopus restaurant is here.
It must be hard for him.
I started working at their restaurant in high school.
It's been about five years.
- Five years? - That's long.
Does your boss...
really not care about his restaurant?
Not at all.
(He doesn't care at all.)
Really?
Is it that bad? Tell us in detail.
Look at his face.
He is at the restaurant...
for an hour or two a week at the most.
Some weeks, he doesn't come at all.
An hour or two a week?
(They can't believe what they just heard.)
(That's worse than a customer.)
- In a week? - I didn't know it was that bad.
He doesn't come at all?
He doesn't know where the side dishes are or what dishes we serve.
That makes me think that he doesn't care at all.
- I see. - As you are his employee,
what's the thing that's the most difficult to stand?
When I'm busy, he says, "Tae Gyun!".
"Tae Gyun"?
- I'm Tae Gyun too. - Is your name Tae Gyun?
- Is your first name Tae Gyun? - I'm Tae Gyun too.
(I'm Tae Gyun too.)
Tae Gyun...
- I'm Tae Gyun too. - Is your name Tae Gyun?
(What did you say?)
I'm Tae Gyun too.
- Is your name Tae Gyun? - Are you Tae Gyun too?
- Yes. - Nice to see you.
(Desperate)
They're reaching out their arms.
(Interesting)
He calls me. I'm too busy,
so I tell him, "I'm busy."
He says, "I'm your boss. Come here!"
When I go to him,
he sings the songs...
- Please continue. - Go on.
He sings the songs he wrote and asks me what I think.
- When you're busy? - Yes.
Yes.
And you have to tell him what you think of the songs?
Why do you look so frustrated?
He talks as if I did that every day. Tae Gyun, you little...
(Tae Gyun, you little...)
(Puzzled)
(Tae Gyun is hurt.)
(Sorry, Tae Gyun.)
What does your boss do in his room?
Have you seen what he does?
He writes songs,
and he drinks with every meal.
He drinks with breakfast, lunch...
He drinks while writing songs too.
- He drinks? - In his room?
Yes, he drinks.
(He drinks instead of working?)
Once, I was too busy, so I asked him for help.
But he drank from the morning, so he was asleep.
- He was sleeping in his room? - Yes.
I asked him for help, but he didn't wake up.
When songwriting doesn't go well,
I think to myself, "I should have a drink."
- It happened more and more often. - It's become a habit.
In the end, I started drinking a lot.
Did you know about it?
I know he drinks a little...
when he eats. And he smokes...
(He smokes too?)
Before, he smoked a pack.
- A day? - Yes.
- That's a lot. - But at some point,
he started smoking more than two packs.
I suspect he's been smoking more since he took up songwriting.
Where do you usually smoke? Outside?
- The restaurant... - In your room?
- Yes. - That's why I don't go in there.
- It smells like cigarettes. - I smoke alone in my studio.
You couldn't smoke at home because of your family.
- He couldn't smoke at home. - We live on the sixth floor.
It's a hassle to go all the way down just to have a smoke.
I just smoke in the bathroom with the door locked.
(He smokes in the bathroom.)
Then the smoke must go up to the seventh floor.
We have kind neighbors.
(Grateful)
That's not the point. Your wife hates it.
- Your family hates it. - He's so positive.
He admits everything, so I can't say anything.
It's not like you want your husband to quit songwriting.
You just want him to pay more attention to your business.
If your business is going all right, what's the problem?
When the owner doesn't care, how long can the business last?
- It can't last long. - It can't last long.
We started a duck restaurant,
and we failed. Our sundae soup restaurant failed too.
After visiting the Philippines,
he wanted to start a business there.
He wasted 30,000 dollars.
(He wasted 30,000 dollars.)
When he starts something,
- is he like a bulldozer? - Yes.
- Do you easily start businesses? - Yes.
How many businesses have you registered so far?
More than 20.
When you start a restaurant, you have to commit yourself to it.
That's my advice to people who start a restaurant.
I realized it too late.
Let's say I invested 100,000 dollars in business.
Once I get my money back, I stop caring.
Then my family takes over...
and try to take care of it.
In the end, things get out of control,
and the business fails.
(That's not how you run a business.)
Do you have a goal as a musician?
I love songs like "The Hymn of Death".
I really hope a melody like that will cross my mind one day.
(I really hope a melody like that will cross my mind one day.)
That's my hope.
I respect your passion,
but do you know...
what your wife likes?
She is interested in investment techniques.
Real estate or stocks...
Is that your hobby? Do you like it as your husband likes music?
- Yes. - No.
She is just as passionate as I am about music.
I can't really say it's my hobby.
My husband is not really interested in...
our family finance.
That's why I have to be interested.
- You have to be. - Right.
Her husband does what he likes, and she does it for her family.
They're different.
Do you have any goals?
Our children are still young.
They still need financial help.
We should run our restaurants well...
Not the things you do for your family,
but the things you plan for yourself. Do you have any?
I think about it from time to time...
- I'm going to cry. - Exactly.
Well...
She does everything for her family.
[VIU Ver] E416 Hello Counselor "Admitting Easily" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
Sometimes...
I ask myself what I like to do...
and feel sad.
(Her family has been her priority. Her life feels empty.)
(He has nothing to say.)
How do you want your husband to change?
I want...
I respect his hobby,
but I think it's also important to support our family financially.
Since we went through a lot to open our restaurant, I want him to...
do his work more meticulously, so it won't fail.
(You can do that, right?)
I am very apologetic towards her.
You admitted everything.
Yes. I admit everything.
- But you... - But the problem is...
that I can't seem to change.
Do you not intend to change?
You married her because you loved her, and you two are happy together.
- That's right. - However,
you must feel bad for her...
when you see her suffer while working so busily.
- I feel that way often. - Right?
Yes, I feel bad for her.
- Then you should help her. - Of course. I will help her...
(Of course. I will help her...)
(Hesitating)
What?
- "I will help her..." - He can't lie.
Are you afraid you might not keep your promise?
Yes, I feel that way...
because I'm not sure that I can do so.
I think you are too selfish...
because you know...
your problems and selfishness.
It seems like your wife gave her body and soul to work...
to keep the wheel spinning,
but you created beautiful music while resting on the wheel.
To be honest, I couldn't enjoy your music.
(Please consider how your wife feels once more.)
Jung Eun, if you think it's a worry,
you can just press the button.
I think it's a worry, as you may have expected.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
I hope you will try to understand your wife and comfort her.
I'm imploring you.
I think it's a worry too.
They say that too much is as bad as too little.
Exactly. Too much is as bad as too little.
Too much of anything always causes trouble.
He should make an effort to work harder.
I'm sure he admits that he's too much.
However, I think you're also too much, ma'am.
You see, we all learn from failure.
But you take care of everything whenever he makes a mistake,
so he got used to it,
and he thinks it's easy to do anything.
So I think you should let go of taking responsibility for him now.
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Before we wrap it up, sir,
say what you have to say to your wife.
- Honey. - All right.
Thank you for all your hard work, and I promise...
I will work hard from now on, so you can get some rest.
You know I can do well once I set my mind to something.
Then...
(He finally made a decision!)
What will be your ratio of making music to working?
(Making music versus running the restaurant)
7 to 3... No, I'll make it to 5 to 5.
Is 5 to 5 okay with you?
- Yes. That sounds good. - She agrees on it.
Tae Gyun, watch and see how well he does.
Tae Gyun, you should help him.
How many votes did she get? Please show us the result.
Out of 200 people...
If it's 138...
(What could be the result?)
(158 votes)
Our next guest wants to make an end to the issue.
Hello. I'm an angry wife in my 40s.
My house is so quiet that we can even hear...
an ant walking by.
My husband and I don't talk to each other...
except when we have to.
You want to know why? It's because of my husband's bad temper.
He loses his temper so easily.
"Honey, eat beef soybean paste stew and cooked rice."
"Have you lost your mind?"
- What? - Why?
"Don't you know that I don't eat beef?"
He flips the table.
(No way. That's ridiculous.)
- No way. - My goodness.
- Is it written in the script? - Yes, it really is.
- "He flips the table." - It's true.
- Really? - Gosh.
He also throws a rice bowl at me all of a sudden.
- It's hard to believe. - He loses his temper while driving.
"Drive carefully. Why are you going so fast? You're scaring me."
"Then you shouldn't ride in my car!"
- That's too harsh. - I had to get out of his car...
and walk for three hours.
When we argue, he says,
"To be honest, I didn't want to marry you."
"I was forced to marry you."
After all these years?
"What? Are you serious?"
"Shut it! Gosh. Darn."
- It's like a drama. - He even throws things.
He also talks about divorce very often.
We've been married for four years, but we sleep in separate rooms.
- What should we do? - Only four years?
- Four years? - Four years?
- Please... - I thought it's been 20 years.
help my husband control...
- his temper. - Four years?
(Please help him control his temper.)
(Who could he be?)
I want to ask Jung Eun...
since she's been married for four years.
In the fourth year of marriage,
couples start to argue less...
than they did in the early years.
- That's right. - However,
if the conflict is only getting worse,
I'm sure that the rift between them is deepening...
- with their issues unsolved. - That's right.
I think Jonathan rarely loses his temper.
- I do lose my temper sometimes. - You do?
Especially when I get on a bus in the morning,
and the driver doesn't believe that I'm a student.
(Resentful)
(It's a funny story, but a sad reality.)
- The fact that I'm 20... - Honestly,
I can understand the driver too.
Can you? I can't understand that.
I paid one dollar and moved to the back of the bus.
The driver said, "No, no, no."
"Pay 40 cents more." So I said I'm a student,
but he said, "Right. I was once a student too."
"I was once a student too."
It makes me lose my temper.
She and her husband have been living together for four years,
but she's worried because her husband...
has such a bad temper.
- Please come out. - Please come out.
(Who is worried about her husband with a bad temper?)
(Yoon So Jeong)
(Welcome.)
How serious is it?
If I knew what makes him lose his temper...
while we're talking...
(It's hard to predict when he'll get angry.)
- Then I... - You mean, the things he hates?
Yes. Then I can prepare myself emotionally.
- But he catches me off guard. - He's not consistent.
He gets angry at the least expected moment.
- He loses his temper. - Does your husband...
really get angry just like Dong Yeob acted before?
- Yes. - Is it that bad?
- I think my husband is worse. - Really?
- Yes. - Gosh.
Does he also get angry while watching TV?
One day, while watching a drama, I said,
"I think that person has anger management issues."
"He can't seem to control his temper."
Then he suddenly got angry and said,
"Hey, are you trying to make a point?"
That's what he said.
I was taken aback.
"What's wrong with him? I was talking about the character."
(I was analyzing the character.)
You said he loses his temper while driving as well.
I got into a car accident a few times before.
So I get scared when he drives fast.
Of course.
So I said, "Slow down a little." Then he said,
"Hey. Then don't ride in my car. Get out of my car."
- What? - He said that.
- Suddenly? - Yes.
- Did you get out of the car? - I got angry too, so I got out.
I closed the door and refused to get in.
I was so angry.
Is it also true that he flips the table...
while eating?
We went to see his friends and their wives.
He didn't do that at home when you two were alone,
- but in front of other people? - Really?
- In front of his friends. - Did he throw the bowls?
They served soybean paste stew made with beef.
- Beef soybean paste stew. - It's good too.
- It's delicious. - For a moment,
I forgot that my husband can't eat beef.
You forgot.
- That's understandable. - I put some stew in a bowl for him.
Unintentionally, I put less of other ingredients...
and too much of beef.
- He saw only beef. - So he thought it was intentional.
- What happened? - He threw the bowl down and said,
"Have you lost your mind?"
And the soup splashed everywhere?
- Yes. He also said, - My goodness.
"You did it on purpose while knowing I can't eat beef, right?"
- He said it loudly? - Yes.
Does he throw things very often?
When he gets angry to the point that he can't control his anger,
he throws cheap things like a remote control or a coffee pot.
- A coffee pot? - My goodness.
That can be dangerous.
(It can be very dangerous.)
When did he begin to lose his temper?
- I didn't know in the early years. - I see.
It's because when we were dating,
he spoke very politely to me...
and didn't try to make physical contact too much.
You liked him although he didn't try to do that?
That's understandable.
- You thought he was considerate? - That's right.
- He seemed to respect you? - He respected me.
I thought I was lucky to find a man like him.
- But as 1 year passed, - 1 year after you got married?
he started showing his true color.
You said you and your husband sleep in separate rooms.
- How long has it been? - I came to hate to see him.
I think it's been almost two years.
- Two years. - Almost.
My husband snores so loud.
It sounds like 30 trains passing by.
- He snores so loudly. - So...
we naturally started to sleep in separate rooms.
But since we became distant from each other...
How do you talk to him if you two sleep in separate rooms?
We text each other or...
You two text each other even at home?
We get emotional and end up fighting when talking face to face.
You two have several decades ahead...
to live together as a married couple.
Have you ever suggested couple therapy?
I told him about it, but he got angry again.
- Just because you suggested it? - "It's not even a good thing."
"Why would you want to tell other people about our problems?"
He didn't even want to go to a couple therapy.
Then why did he come here?
I think that's so ironic as well.
It's unbelievable.
- My husband said, - He reacted...
"Hey. I would take a day off to go on the show."
- Why? - Exactly.
- He was willing to come here? - Yes.
He was willing to come on Hello?
- Yes. - Is it because of me?
(Could it be because of me?)
I'm sorry.
She looks away.
(We're curious about her husband.)
Let's meet her husband. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
My goodness.
(Polite)
He doesn't look like...
- He seems to be enjoying this. - That's right.
Did you really say you would take a day off to come here?
"I would take a day off to go on the show."
I believed that my conscience is clear.
Are you saying you don't understand why she's worried?
- Your wife's worries. - Of course, not.
It's true that I lose my temper sometimes,
but my wife has a worse temper.
(My wife has a worse temper.)
- And... - What?
- She has a worse temper? - Yes.
- Please continue. - That's a different story.
She's more short-tempered than me.
When I tell her that I'm stepping out,
she responds very harshly.
"Just go. Why are you telling me that?"
She responds like this.
That's a completely different story than what we heard.
- This is serious. - Are you saying...
that you said you regretted...
marrying her out of anger?
I thought that if I said something like that,
my wife would tame her temper a little bit.
But she said, "Fine. I'll pack my stuff and leave this weekend."
She said something back to me.
Is it true that you made her walk for three hours...
just because she asked you to slow down on the highway?
"Slow down already! Why are you going so fast?"
She said it as if she was scolding a child.
Besides, I was upset because of something else.
We went to my parents' house to prepare for the memorial service.
But she wouldn't wake up.
She overslept, but she said angrily,
"Why didn't you wake me up?"
So you were upset at her already before it happened.
Why didn't you wake her up?
I tried once,
but my mom told me to...
- let her sleep a little longer. - I see.
In that case, whose fault is it?
- But... - Well...
Isn't it your mother's fault? She told you not to wake her up.
Right? Right?
It's her fault because she told him to let her sleep.
Your husband says...
that you lose your temper more easily than he does.
Do you admit it?
I admit that I'm short-tempered, but my husband is worse.
So both of you lose your temper easily.
I told you, he's worse than me.
But both of you lose your temper easily.
Keep going. I think she'll lose her temper shortly.
I stopped because I thought she would lose her temper.
As for that matter, I wasn't always like this.
He's the one who caused it,
but he doesn't even know that.
"You're always too impatient and short-tempered."
He blames everything on me.
If you're impatient and short-tempered...
How long did you date him before getting married?
In fact, I had a boyfriend I dated for a long time.
- Before you got married? - Yes.
Stay calm.
(Part 2 will begin shortly.)
Stay calm. I'm sorry. Please don't get angry.
In fact,
I had a boyfriend I dated for a long time.
- Before you got married? - Yes.
Stay calm.
Stay calm. I'm sorry. Please don't get angry.
I'm really sorry, so please don't get angry.
- There's nothing wrong about it. - That's right.
- It was before getting married. - It's normal.
Anyway, he drank too often,
so my parents disapproved of him.
I got upset that we kept having the same relationship problems.
I wanted to settle down with someone.
So I told myself to find a decent man.
Since an elder set me up with my husband,
- Oh, someone set her up with him. - I thought...
she was a better judge of character than I was.
So how long did you see him before getting married?
About two months.
- 2 months? - 2 months?
- It was less than two months. - That was too fast.
- I know. - Oh, no.
Did you decide to get married on impulse out of anger?
Yes, that's part of the reason.
- Did you get married out of anger? - Did you?
I married him because I liked him, but it was an impulsive decision.
- Then was it you... - I could have watched him...
while dating him for longer, but I just decided to marry him.
- You just make the decision? - Yes.
I'm speechless. I've never heard that story before.
(Anxious)
Did it make you angry?
I think he's angry. The tone of his voice changed.
- Did it make you angry? - Yes.
From my perspective,
if both of you have a short temper,
you can understand each other better than anyone else.
When my husband loses his temper, he hurts my feelings...
with harsh words, and then I suffer the pain.
But the next day, he comes home after work and says,
"Hey. Do you want to eat jokbal or fried chicken?"
- Maybe he was trying to make up. - She's right.
- But I hate it so much. - Because you're still hurt...
It makes me feel like I've been ignored.
My feelings are hurt, and I'm worried about it, but...
Listen. I am older than her.
- I am older than her. - Yes.
She is younger than me.
That means I have seniority over her.
- So she... - Pardon?
- In terms of age. - When she talks to me,
she should speak nicely without trying to win,
but she talks back to me every time I talk to her.
That's what causes such problems.
Both of them keep complaining about each other.
They can't seem to yield.
I think that what he's trying to say...
is not that he has authority over his wife,
but that he feels like she treats him like a little child.
So you want her to show you at least minimum respect.
I want her not to cross the line.
You want her not to say harsh things, right?
You have to make it clear, sir.
Or else, you could be in big trouble.
Yeong Ja is right.
Regardless of age,
both the husband and wife must respect each other.
But you don't think she respects you, right?
Then how does she speak to you? Please be more specific.
One day, we went out to walk our dog.
She talked to me as if she was teaching a little child,
Unless I stop her,
she can go on lecturing me all day long...
I want to see how they usually talk to each other.
Please show us.
- Right here? - I'm curious.
Didn't you record any of your conversations?
Show us what happened when you two walked the dog.
I'll play your dog.
(He plays their dog.)
- Wake up. - He looks like a bulldog.
- Wake up. Let's go for a walk. - Like a bulldog.
Then let's go to the nearby park.
I want to go to the park.
But our dog might bark loudly...
and scare other people in the park.
We stay at home all the time because we both have a job.
Why should we go to a quiet place?
No. I'm going to the park today.
Hey.
He lost. He lost.
He got angry already.
- Keep going. - He lost already.
- "Hey." - You can do it.
- Hey. - You can do it.
So what was your final decision?
- In the end... - We did not go out at all.
- I feel bad for their dog. - Or sometimes,
we go to a quiet place...
where there aren't many people just as he wants.
Can't you let your husband do as he wants at once?
You can go to the park next time.
Can't you do that?
They don't let each other win.
(It's hard to bridge the gap between them.)
In order to understand the situation objectively,
we'll hear their acquaintance's opinion.
I'm her sister-in-law. He's my elder brother.
Do they actually argue like this?
Whenever they have a fight, he agonizes and calls me.
He goes on and on saying he can't live with her any longer.
- But I don't think it's a worry. - You're right.
I tell him that it's not even a problem compared to my life.
- I always tell him this. - You have more problem?
She must have a more serious problem.
What worries could she have?
- All right. Next week, - Next week?
we'll invite his sister...
- to our show. - We thought the same thing.
(That's what a married couple is like.)
Has your brother always been short-tempered?
Yes. He gets his bad temper from our father.
Whenever our father got drunk,
he used violence physically and verbally.
So we watched how much our mother...
had to endure it as we grew up.
When we were little, we had a fight.
My brother lost his temper and swore at me.
And then he threw a stainless-steel teapot at me.
(That's scary.)
(No wonder he behaves like that.)
He always throws things when he's angry.
- I got angry too. - What did he throw at her?
- A teapot. - I swore back at him...
and threw a chamber pot at him.
(His family members are all scary.)
- You said your father was violent. - Yes.
Didn't you hate it when you saw him being like that?
- I hated it. - Right?
Yet you behave just like he did.
It's hard for me to control my temper...
because she keeps talking back to me when I'm older than her.
You keep saying that.
- He can't control it. - I understand.
You can stop arguing first.
You said that your brother calls you...
- after having a fight with her. - Yes, he does.
What does he usually say?
What he hates the most is how she does house chores.
After making instant coffee,
she can put the sachet in the trash can,
but she put it on the counter top.
If he tells her to throw it away,
she says, "Don't nitpick at me unless you'll clean it up."
It's because they're the same.
- One of them can let the other win. - Exactly.
They always end up fighting because they never let each other win.
I work six days a week. I rest only on Sundays.
I want to get some rest at home on Sundays.
However, I don't know if she tries to provoke me or whatever,
but she cleans the house when I lay down to rest.
As if she cleans the house that day on purpose?
That's not all.
She left food waste in the sink, so I told her to clean it up.
But it was still there the next day, so I told her again.
She said she would clean up. But later, I found...
maggots in the food waste.
(They left it until there were maggots.)
- My goodness. There were maggots? - Let me explain.
He could've cleaned it up, but he ordered me to do it instead.
So I thought, "I can't believe him. I won't do it either."
- And a few days passed... - I see.
She stays at home longer than I do.
She has so much free time since she finishes work at 5pm.
- She also has... - Your wife has a job as well.
She also has two days off a week.
However, you didn't clean it although you saw it several times.
Did you want to see when she would clean it?
That's part of the reason.
- The two of them are the same. - You admit it, right?
They're the same.
Whatever story he tells us, it all comes down to,
"You are the cause."
- Right. - "No, you are the cause."
What makes your husband...
- lose his temper? - What triggers him?
- Money. - Money?
That was random.
(What other problems do they have?)
He originally comes from the countryside. He managed...
to settle in Seoul and build a life for himself.
He's the type who gets excited about saving.
I am the type who wants to spend on things that need to be spent.
He likes to save.
The money he gives me is...
- Living expense. - It's too small to pay for that.
He gives me about 300 dollars.
When I spend, he should just think that I would've spent it well.
But he gets very sensitive whenever I withdraw cash.
He talks about my money and his money.
(Just the thought of it frustrates us.)
He asks what I did with the money.
When I spend, he asks where I spent it on.
That really stresses me out.
It's been on-going for four years.
She earns 1,000 dollars.
That's enough to maintain a living.
I give her 300 dollars...
because I think she can manage things within those means.
Do you think you are spending much more because of her?
She wanted to get a license so she can get a new job.
So I supported her to get the license.
But she keeps getting a different job.
She can't stay at one company for a long time.
(Why would you say that?)
There is a reason why I earn money doggedly.
I once got into an accident.
I got into an accident.
- You? - Yes. I became handicapped.
(His legs got handicapped because of the accident.)
Since I am not in good shape,
- Do you have to retire early? - I might have to retire early.
If I become bedridden one day,
my wife is going to have a really hard time.
Is that why you are saving?
- Yes. That's why. - Why didn't you tell her that?
Why didn't you tell her you were saving for her?
That's the most important thing.
I am grateful for it,
but he's not well, and I earn money.
I want him to take it easy.
- Then you could come home... - You should tell him that.
at 5pm and clean the house.
He always makes me feel bad by saying mean things to me.
(They have a useless pride battle.)
If you want to live together,
can't you be more considerate of each other?
Right. That's the most important thing.
Why do you only insist on what you want from each other?
Sir, you came here because you want to make things...
better with your wife, right?
Well...
Honestly...
Can you talk faster?
(Please.)
He's too frustrating.
(We wanted to fast-forward it.)
To reconcile with her, I wrote her a letter...
on our wedding anniversary.
(He wrote her a letter on their wedding anniversary.)
I did try that.
But it didn't work.
(Their relationship worsened.)
I was touched.
It was my first time to receive such a thing from him.
But 1 mistake makes you forget 10 good deeds.
One mistake makes you forget all the good things.
The touching emotion lasted only for a short while.
- Did you write a reply? - I didn't.
- You didn't write a reply? - I didn't.
- Perhaps... - They are very similar.
They are too similar.
I disagree.
The way they get upset...
and the things they get upset over are similar.
But they are two very different people.
Their values are very different.
That's why everything that happens in their daily life...
makes them fight.
- She talks so well. My gosh. - It's...
- Your wife... - My gosh.
- You should just be a regular here. - What are you saying?
What do you think will improve your relationship?
I want us to go to a cafe nearby...
and have red bean shaved ice together.
I want him to say, "I gave you a hard time. I didn't mean to."
- Right. - It's the simple things I want.
He doesn't understand why we have to eat it outside...
when we can just make it at home.
- You make it at home. - He doesn't think it's necessary.
You get into a fight while talking about red bean shaved ice.
You fight while arguing about whether or not to go out to eat it.
The dog is the biggest victim.
I've never heard this before.
What?
(Here it goes...)
(again.)
- This is what happens. - She never asked me.
I clearly asked him to go to a cafe nearby.
(Calm down, everyone.)
It's not even an expensive cafe.
(They are just like each other when it comes to losing temper.)
(Can they reconcile with each other?)
When you talk to your wife,
what do you want to hear from her?
When I come home,
I want her to greet me. "You're home."
She doesn't come out from her room.
I've seen his wife's face when she talks.
I think what upsets him is this.
Your facial expression speaks certain things.
Whenever he talks, she does this.
And her face says it all.
(She's irritated...)
(and unhappy.)
(She rejects everything.)
- Your face says those. - You look irritated.
I think that's why he gets upset...
while talking.
I think they need to learn...
- about each other's language. - Right. Right.
They have to try to understand each other.
- Yes. - Yes.
We can't find out...
who is at fault.
But when you apologize first,
- things get much easier. - Yes. You feel comfortable.
Miracles happen.
You are the elder person.
Since you are the elder person,
why don't you say it first, no matter how short?
(Why don't you apologize to your wife first?)
After I lost my temper,
I saw you...
crying in the room.
I don't know if it's just that I don't know how to apologize.
I wanted to say it,
but I couldn't manage to say it.
He's very honest.
If we go home...
and if we fight again,
I will apologize right away.
I am sorry.
(I am sorry, honey.)
(He could've done this earlier.)
(Why was it so hard?)
It's not a hard thing to say,
- Yes. - but it made her break into tears.
(Her husband's sincerity made her break into tears.)
I appreciated you...
for many things, but...
(She becomes emotional.)
You should look at him.
It's all right.
Please edit this out.
Don't say such nonsense.
This is when we get the highest viewer rating.
Why would we edit it out?
I am just joking.
Even if it may sound plain,
tell him what you thank him for, and tell him why you're sorry.
I will try not to sound like...
I am teaching you.
I will try to change the way I talk.
(She will try to change the way she talks.)
I love you.
(I love you.)
(As much as you want to be understood, )
(you should understand each other.)
Jung Eun, is this a worry for the wife or not?
It might be hurtful to hear.
I think you got married on a whim.
You should've gotten married after learning about these things.
Since you didn't, you should sort things out through conversation.
You should learn to talk without picking a fight or making...
offensive nonverbal expressions. You'd benefit from practicing that.
Thy only dated for two months.
You apologized to her,
and you apologized to him.
The producer should put those parts together...
and send it to them.
Whenever they fight, they should watch that clip.
I think they try to adjust to each other,
their relationship will improve.
I also think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
(Please send us your worries about yourself, family, and friends.)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Let's see how many votes she got. Show us the result.
"Infuriating Worry".
(The last digit is 3.)
Out of 200 votes...
(What's the result?)
123 votes.
(123 votes)
It's titled "Our House Inspector".
Hello.
I am Park Ju Yeon, and I am a fifth grader.
A fifth grader?
Whenever I go home, my ears hurt too much.
"Daughter, Daddy's home."
"Wait. What's up with your room? Clean your room right now."
"I told you not to look at your phone when you eat."
"Don't leave any food. Finish everything on your plate."
My dad watches everything I do...
and nitpicks about everything.
"Daughter, stop watching the drama and do your homework."
"I will watch it for just 10 minutes."
"Mom told me it was okay."
"No, homework first. Come on."
Is it so bad if I do the homework after watching the drama?
Whenever I miss the important scenes because of Dad,
I get really frustrated.
"Dad, my friends came over."
"Can we hang out for a while and then do homework?"
"No. You can't play until you finish your homework."
"We'll just go home, Ju Yeon."
- How cute. - Her friends just left.
(Laughing)
He nitpicks even in front of my friends.
It's so embarrassing.
What makes me the saddest is this.
"Mom, I am going to take a short rest,"
"but Dad keeps nitpicking about it."
"Just listen to your dad."
"Rest when you are done. Come on. All right?"
Is nobody in this house on my side?
Uncles and aunties of Hello,
please rescue me from this netherworld of nitpicking.
She's so cute.
(Please rescue me from the netherworld of nitpicking.)
- Cute. - Do your parents nitpick at you?
I always bite my nails.
- You bite your nails. - Like this.
It's embarrassing.
Even if other people are around,
my mom hits me like this.
- Like this. - My goodness.
(Bam)
No. No.
My mom hits me like this.
(What just passed by my face?)
- I'm sorry. - The air blew all the way here.
- The air... - It blew all the way here.
- It's okay. - It's because my hand is big.
- Show us your hands. They're big. - I know.
- Compare it to her hand. - Compare them.
- No way. - I...
No way.
In Gwangju, I haven't seen anyone with bigger hands.
- Of course. - Not yet.
We got the letter from the worried 12-year-old.
Please come on out.
(Who's the one worried about being nitpicked all day?)
(Park Ju Yeon)
She's so adorable.
(She's very adorable.)
Hello, I am Park Ju Yeon, and I am 12 years old.
(12 years old?)
How much does your dad nitpick? Was it so bad that...
you had to send a letter here?
Dad nitpicks at least eight times a day.
You counted it?
Yes.
The only times he doesn't nitpick is my birthday...
and my grandparents' birthdays.
He doesn't nitpick at that time?
- He doesn't nitpick much. - Other times, he always nitpicks.
Yes. He says,
"Wash faster. Don't leave your food."
"Homework comes before the drama." He says those things a lot.
But you need to get permission if you were to watch it...
before doing homework.
Mom said I could do it after watching the drama.
But Dad said I should first finish the homework.
So I always miss the important scenes.
But when a cute daughter like yourself says,
"Dad, let me watch the drama first and do the homework,"
doesn't he let you do it?
No.
She said, "No".
You could do the homework before watching the drama.
I finish school at 3pm.
When I come home from tutoring and swimming, it's 8pm.
- But... - What time does the drama begin?
8pm.
She doesn't have time.
That's a tight schedule.
You don't have time to do the homework.
Which drama do you watch?
"Left-Handed Wife".
"Left-Handed Wife"? It's a KBS drama, isn't it?
It is.
Can you understand the story?
- Yes. - Is it fun?
Tell us what "Left-Handed Wife" is about.
Explain it to the viewers.
- I don't know what it's about. - Tell them.
(Summary of "Left-Handed Wife")
- 2 men and 1 girl went on a trip. - Okay.
They get into an accident.
The real heir of a rich family dies.
The other man disguises...
as the heir of the rich family and lives on.
But that girl gets into another accident.
- She gets into another accident. - The wife.
She marries the man who always had a crush on her.
But her memory returns, and she calls off the wedding.
- She goes back to her husband. - It's so fun.
- Right. - Is there a drama like that?
It's such a fun drama.
Is there another drama you watch? Any memorable ones?
I watch "My Prettiest Daughter in the World".
- What have you watched? - I've watched...
"Sunny Again Tomorrow" and "My Only One".
- "My Only One" was very popular. - "My Only One".
You like what adults like.
Do you watch anything else other than the dramas?
Which variety show do you like?
- I like "Mr. House Husband" and... - "Mr. House Husband"?
- "Mr. House Husband". - You watch that.
She likes shows like that.
- She likes adults' shows. - Yes.
I watch Hello and "Gag Concert" too.
- You watch Hello? - Yes.
What do you like about Hello?
You are the funniest.
(You are the funniest.)
(Tae Gyun found a fan.)
- I see. - She's watching it because of me.
- He's the funniest. - Tae Gyun is the fun part.
He's the reason why she watches it.
- That was a real laugh. - He is the funniest.
(I am your fan.)
Isn't your dad being strict because you once didn't...
do your homework while watching TV?
Right. Have you done that before?
I've fallen asleep while doing homework.
(You fell asleep while doing homework.)
- Right. - Go on.
I get it done the next day.
I was studying English, and I got bored.
So I scribbled a little on the book. Dad happened to...
Did he see you at that very moment?
He saw me, and he told me not to slack.
So I suddenly...
Parents always look at you at those times.
They look at you when you take a short break.
Whenever I was nitpicked, I didn't do anything.
When my parents left me alone, I studied.
But when they forced me, I didn't study.
You are teaching her a great lesson.
- My goodness. - Right.
- You don't have to explain. - She has to study.
Whenever your dad nitpicks, what comes up in your mind?
I want my dad to come home late.
- She's very honest. - I can sympathize with her.
What time do you want him to come?
10pm.
- 10pm. - 10 pm.
- Is there no drama at that time? - You sleep by then, don't you?
No. I watch another drama.
(She watches another drama.)
- She loves drama. - You watch too much drama.
- You watch the daily drama. - Right.
Do you watch a Monday-Tuesday drama?
I watch a Monday-Tuesday drama.
- And a Wednesday-Thursday drama? - I watch it.
- How about the weekend drama? - I watch it.
When do you do homework?
You watch more dramas than my mom.
You are almost like a housewife.
Have you never seen me in a drama?
- I've seen you. - You've seen me?
- She's seen you. - Really?
- Which drama? - "Your House Helper".
Right.
- "Your House Helper". - Right.
What was her role there?
"Your House"?
She was living with three girls,
- and she had a crush on... - Isn't she like a screenwriter?
this man.
(What's the answer?)
(She was living with 3 girls.)
(She did have a crush on a man.)
- Is she a good actress? - Really?
- Yes. - You're a good actress, she says.
- I will treat you good food. - Okay.
Cute.
Let's meet her nitpicking dad. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who's her dad who nitpicks at her all day?)
Your daughter came out here because you nitpick a lot.
- Yes. - Can you understand her worry?
I can understand it very well.
She always asks me...
to stop nitpicking at her. So I knew about her worry.
You know everything, so why do you keep nitpicking?
My daughter doesn't keep her promise well.
"You are playing right now. When will you do your homework?"
I ask her that, and when it's time, I tell her to do it.
When I tell him what time,
Dad says it's too late and that I should do it now.
There's no point of telling him.
He only asks.
She's right about that. She's right, but...
- Why is everyone... - Everyone admits the fault.
- admitting their fault easily? - You have to listen carefully.
It's like this.
She often promises to do it at a very late hour.
For example, there is the drama called "My Fellow Citizens".
She says she'd do it when that drama is finished.
- Doesn't that begin at 11pm? - Yes.
That's too late.
- So I tell her she can't do that. - Right.
So I am simply telling her that she can't do that.
When she watches a drama and does homework at 11pm,
she often dozes off while doing homework.
- She'd be sleepy. - She sleeps.
- But "Left-Handed Wife" is... - Yes.
only a 30-minute long drama. Can't she just watch that?
It airs right after she comes home from the tutoring.
She would promise to start doing homework at 7:40pm.
She misses it, and it becomes 8pm.
And that's when the drama begins.
So I tell her she should keep the promise first.
- That's what I am saying. - You are so inflexible.
Ju Yeon argues that she would do it...
after watching the drama. This is the difference.
Do you think your husband nitpicks a lot?
When my husband calls Ju Yeon, she says,
"Okay. Okay. I know what you will say."
She often cuts off her Dad.
Whenever she does that, I can guess that she doesn't like it.
By the way, before your husband came home,
you told her to do the homework after watching the drama.
When your husband came and told her to turn off the TV,
shouldn't you mediate between the two?
Yes. She would be too confused.
It's not that I can't interfere. I want to respect his words.
I try not to interfere because...
I'm afraid he'll lose his authority.
(But it's confusing for me.)
When was the time your dad's nitpicking made you the saddest?
My good friend who's older than me came over.
- A good friend. - She was an elder friend too.
She's the same age as my brother. She came to play badminton with me.
Dad told me I should play after finishing the homework.
- So she just went home. - You must've been embarrassed.
She's the same age as your elder brother?
When she left, did your brother feel sorry too?
Is that what's going on?
Look at her facial expression.
- Is that what's going on? - Because of the dramas,
she immediately understood him.
- She understood his intention. - A child of her age should be...
wondering what I mean, but she went...
(Look at this man.)
Was there another time his nitpicking made you sad?
- I managed to see my friends. - You managed to see them.
- What do you mean? - It was hard to meet them.
We are always too busy, so we managed to free our schedule.
- To play. - Right.
- After a long time. - But...
I didn't get to finish my homework.
Why do you never finish your homework?
- It wasn't time to do the homework. - Do some...
Was it not? You didn't have time.
I wanted to play.
But Dad told me to play after doing the homework.
So I didn't get to play.
Even if her friend came unannounced...
- Right. - A similar thing happened to me.
I was drinking with my friends outside.
One friend suddenly insisted that we go to his house. But it was late.
He said it was okay. When we got to his house,
his wife came out,
and they talked for 30 minutes. We just stood there.
So we ended up saying,
"We will get going."
- That's it. - It's embarrassing.
I completely understood it. I know how it feels.
Are there things other than homework he tells you to do?
When we eat, I can't use my smartphone.
When there are beans, I have to eat more than four beans.
- What? - I have to eat four beans.
Beans in the side dishes. Black beans?
Either black beans or peas.
- You have to eat more than four? - Yes.
Four peas are too small.
- So cute. - Hey.
(But I still hate it.)
- Do you hate beans? - Yes.
Just eat the beans.
- No. - It's just four.
- It's for your health. - What else?
- Mom... - Until when can you use the phone?
- 10pm. - That's good.
Your dad...
But Dad...
Even after 10pm, he plays games...
and reads webtoons with his phone.
- Dad is... - He's an adult.
Dad is not an elementary school student like you.
But it's not fair.
- It's not fair. - It's not fair.
But your dad doesn't watch "Left-Handed Wife".
My dad sometimes watches it when he comes home early.
(It must be frustrating for her.)
I set rules to Ju Yeon's friends.
She has pajama parties with her friends.
The first rule is...
that they can't use their smartphone after 10pm.
- No way. - That's too rigid.
- I do that because... - They are there to play.
they are supposed to hang out with their friends.
If they are going to be on smartphones all night,
what's the point of having a sleepover?
It seems like you don't know. A pajama party involves...
being on smartphones in pajamas.
- That's what a pajama party is. - That's right.
They do everything in pajamas.
They play games on smartphones.
The apartment is on the first floor, so they can run around freely.
My wife and I want them to play...
by running around.
We don't mind the mess.
We want them to abide by those rules.
(She becomes disappointed.)
Ju Yeon, we can feel like...
your dad is friendly and loves you very much.
That's why he pays attention and nitpicks at you.
When Dad comes home from work,
he doesn't listen to me.
- Doesn't he listen to you? - It's a new worry.
No. When Dad comes home from work,
I go, "Dad, welcome back."
Then he goes, "Did you do your homework?"
He asks me that right away.
In that case, you should tell him first.
"Dad, welcome back."
"I didn't do my homework. I didn't tidy up my room."
- "I am going to wash up later." - Right.
(Laughing)
- Her dad would be speechless. - In advance.
As soon as he enters, go, "Take a look at this."
"I'll do it later."
Is there anything you want your dad...
- to ask? - I want him to ask me about school.
You want him to ask about school and friends.
- Yes. - "Did you have a good day?"
I didn't know Ju Yeon was disappointed.
On weekends,
- I am often away from home. - I see.
When that happens,
- my husband fills the void. - He is good.
He makes cookies and bread with Ju Yeon.
He is a good dad.
He plays a board game with her in a fun way.
Thus, I didn't think Ju Yeon would be disappointed.
- You had no idea. - No.
Among the parents...
and neighbors, Ju Yeon's dad is highly-regarded.
A highly-regarded man suddenly starred on Hello.
(He starred on Hello as the source of worry.)
I bet all other husbands are going,
"I knew he had a problem!"
"You can't tell a man by the outward appearance."
(This is hilarious.)
It must be nice to have a dad who plays with you on weekends.
But Mom and Dad decide...
where to go.
If you go somewhere on the weekend...
My brother and I want to go...
to Grandma's place,
but Mom and Dad take us...
to a fishing spot.
- Does your dad like to fish? - Hold on.
She said something important.
The children want to go to their grandma's place,
but their parents...
When Grandma sees this, she will go, "I can't believe them!"
- "My grandchildren want to see me!" - You are right.
You are right.
"How could they stop my grandchildren?"
That's right.
(Will you be okay?)
What other places do you want to go with Mom and Dad?
- A sauna. - What?
(She has mature tastes.)
- A sauna? - A sauna?
- Why? - Do you want to watch dramas?
Why do you want to go to a sauna?
- You want to sweat. - I want to relieve my stress.
- You want to relieve your stress. - Yes.
How does going to a sauna relieve your stress?
Entering the hot and cold tubs...
relieves my stress.
(Is she really 12 years old?)
She enjoys entering the hot and cold tubs.
Have you expressed your wish to your parents?
My dad was on the phone...
when I told him.
He pretended not to hear me.
Sir.
Here is the thing.
When the family goes somewhere,
I let my wife decide the destination.
Since both of us work,
my wife is exhausted by the weekend arrives.
Ju Yeon wants to go to a sauna...
because she is stressed out.
- That's right. - She wants to go to a sauna...
to relieve her stress.
I know. I should have listened more carefully.
Since you are on the show,
- tell us what stresses you out. - That's right. Tell us.
One time, I brought clay to school...
- for a science class. - You brought clay to school.
One of my friends asked me to let her play with it.
I didn't want to do that,
but she suddenly began to cry.
She wanted to play with it.
There are hardships in interpersonal relationships.
- Did she cry... - Yes.
- because you refused? - Yes.
Why didn't you tell your parents...
you are under a lot of stress because of such matters?
I felt like I would get scolded.
(I felt like I would get scolded.)
"You need to be nice to your friends."
She was too afraid...
of getting nitpicked...
to say what's on her mind.
(I am afraid of getting nitpicked.)
What do you hate the most when your dad nitpicks?
- My dad? - What do you hate the most?
He talks to me as if he is irritated.
Can you give us an example?
Instead of using gentle words,
he goes, "Hurry up and do your homework!"
He orders. "Hurry up and do your homework!"
- How do you want him to speak? - I want him to ask me,
"Would you do your homework after you watch this?"
You want him to ask.
You want to finish watching something first.
She wants her dad to ask nicely.
She said she wants you to ask nicely.
Why don't you give it a try?
Let's say your daughter is watching a drama at 10pm...
without getting washed up.
That's the situation.
- Try talking to her as she wants. - Okay.
(He tries to have a conversation.)
Ju Yeon, it's 10pm.
How will you do your homework?
Is that good enough?
- That was really awkward. - He isn't used to it.
- That was really awkward. - "How will you do your homework?"
That was scary.
(This isn't easy.)
Please try again.
Ju Yeon, it's 10pm. The drama will air,
but it seems like you haven't done what you need to do.
What are you going to do?
(How will Ju Yeon answer?)
I will do it after I watch the drama.
It will be 11pm once the drama ends.
If you go to bed after doing what you need to do,
wouldn't you be too tired the next day?
(He suppressed his urge to nitpick at her.)
- I want to watch the drama. - No, no.
You should say, "I will do them before I sleep."
"Trust me."
- What if I fall asleep? - "What if I fall asleep?"
(She refuses to lie.)
She is nervous that she will fall asleep.
- She is cute. She is cute. - Seriously.
(She is ridiculous.)
Do you have the intention to watch less drama?
No.
Ju Yeon.
Your friends don't watch dramas as often as you, right?
They go to the academies...
after school, right?
Ju Yeon goes to the academies, too.
I only go to one.
Compared to your friends' parents, your parents are lax about...
sending you to the academies.
- Yes. - They give you a lot of free time.
(Doesn't that mean they respect your freedom?)
That's right. They are very good at you.
It tells us they respect your opinions.
- That's right. - Until now,
you only told us what you want from your parents.
What do you do for your parents...
every day?
(What do you do for your parents every day?)
There is no one like your dad.
If you don't listen to him,
he might go into his room to compose.
You don't want that.
- Seriously. - No!
Then...
- he won't make you dinner. - No!
I can order delivery.
You don't have money.
I can use Dad's card.
(She doesn't back down.)
Once he begins to compose music,
his card will be suspended because he won't have a job.
When I see Ju Yeon,
I want to applaud her parents...
because they raised her well.
- She can express herself clearly. - That's right.
When I was young,
my parents were really busy.
I grew up without hearing anyone nitpick at me.
Too much nitpicking can be a problem,
- but there are people who miss it. - That's right.
That's why I am jealous of you, Ju Yeon.
(That's why I am jealous of you, Ju Yeon.)
What do you want to say to your dad?
"Dad."
(Kang Nam takes out the tissue papers.)
Don't take out the tissue papers ahead of time.
- I wanted to be prepared. - This is a KBS show,
- so only get two at a time. - Okay.
All right. "Dad."
Dad, when you come home from work,
I hope you would ask me how school was...
before you ask me about homework.
(She becomes emotional.)
(She wanted to hear kind words.)
"Did you do your homework? Did you tidy up your room?"
Those questions won't come first from now on.
I will make an effort...
to talk to you about...
what happened at school and such.
Is there anything else you want to say?
- No? - No, there isn't.
(That's all.)
Look at your dad.
"Dad, I love you."
- "Dad, thank you. I love you." - My goodness.
- "Dad, thank you. I love you." - Stop forcing her.
I am begging you. Say, "Dad, thank you. I love you."
- "Thank you for raising me." - "Dad, thank you. I love you."
Dad, I love you.
Ju Yeon, I love you, too.
I love my entire family.
(I love my entire family.)
(What a beautiful family!)
Let's start with Jonathan.
My parents aren't fluent in Korean,
so I take care of my siblings' school matters.
- You know how parents feel. - Yes, I have an idea.
I can't be sure since I haven't had a child yet,
- but I have an idea. - "I haven't had a child yet."
- But I put myself in her shoes. - You put yourself in her shoes.
It's a worry for her, so I pressed the button.
Once Ju Yeon grows up a bit more,
she will be thankful for her dad.
I also don't think it's a worry.
It's a worry for Ju Yeon now,
but it will change...
once she grows up a bit more.
There are parents who nitpick more often.
My mom is an example.
I was plugging in the TV...
when my mom cut the cord.
There was an explosion.
(There was an explosion.)
Compared to her, your parents are...
very gentle.
(He has a point.)
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Show us the result for "Our House Inspector".
(The result)
Will the worry get over 100 votes?
35 votes.
Thus, "That Darn, Old Geezer" wins this week.
We will give the winner the prize money.
Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free...
Hello will continue to counsel you.
Thank you.